Hello Crone,

So my father does not support me being gay, and calls it a 'phase'.

He claims he is trying to understand, but whenever I try to explain to him how I feel, he just shuts it down and doesn't change.

I can't move out, I'm too young, but I love my dad, and he loves me.

What do I do?

How can I get him to accept me?

Confused

Dear Confused,

Acceptance is a process, and one that is often slower than you’d wish.

You and your father love each other, that’s what matters.

He doesn’t need to understand it; your identity belongs to you.

Be who you are, be the good person your father wants you to be, and be gay.

That’s it.

Lovingly,

The Crone

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At 17, she, like so many of us at that age, wished to be seen for who she is as an individual.

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Is it love? Is it lust? Or is it just about being acknowledged?

Beloved Crone,

I just recently started going to the gym.

My friend offered to train me in return for mooching off my weed, which is a worthy trade.

After literally being tortured by him in the gym, I fear I’m kinda falling in love with him.

You know it’s dire when you’re falling in love with a blond guy.

He’s also been flirting with me heavy, but told me he’s not really interested in anything physical and I’m going mad.

But the way he talks to me in the gym is perfect gooning material.

Help me

Gym Crushed

Dear Gym Crushed,

Are you able to respect your friend’s boundaries while continuing to work out with him?

If not, you may want to look into getting a different trainer.

Simultaneously, if he is flirting with you—and please confirm he is flirting, not just being helpful or nice—you’re welcome to reciprocate that energy, again, so long as you behave.

Please, under no circumstances, tell him he’s been added to your spank bank.

Honestly,

The Crone

Dear Crone,

This guy asked for my number, which has never happened to me before.

I’ve never been in a relationship or on a date.

The next day he texted and asked me for coffee.

His texts were very dry the whole time, but he initiated.

The date was fun, we had a lot in common but in the end no second date was mentioned.

The next day I thanked him for the date and he said he had a great time but I havent heard from him since. I

feel insecure and dont understand why he doesnt just say hes not interested anymore

Confused Naive Loner

Dear CNL,

It’s possible he's struggling with the same thing and wanted you to initiate a conversation about a second date.

I’m not guaranteeing this is the case, but I would rather you bring up the topic than be left wondering what went wrong.

Ask him if he’s free Saturday, just see what happens.

The worst case scenario is… You don’t get a second date. We’re already there right now, so why don’t we try something new?

Encouragingly,

The Crone

Dearest Crone and Daniel,

I find myself no contact with my mother, and without female friends.

As medical issues (endometriosis, fibroids, infertility) become more apparent, I find myself more and more alone.

My husband is being as supportive as he can, but I don't have a woman in my life who has been on the other side of this.

Therapy is expensive.

I don't know how to tame the fear of these issues, and approach without spiraling.

With humble reference,

With Out Peer

Dear Peer,

While I’m glad your mind is on therapy, I recognize that it can be a significant financial commitment.

Start by looking into local support groups, many of which are free and can be either general women’s groups or specific to the medical issues you’re facing.

It’s very normal to want companions intimately familiar with what you’re dealing with, and they are out there.

Start by attending one meeting you can find, and take it slow.

Gently,

The Crone

Dearest Crone and Daniel,

I'm happy to tell you that you were right!

A bit of an update: I have a BF now, he's the sweetest man alive!

It's long-distance, but it doesn't stop him, he sent me flowers (a Sylveon blocks set, adding a chocolate)!

I'm learning to program a visual novel for him for Valentine's, and he's learning to make jewelry!

Thank you so much for listening to me.

Happy Valentine's Day!!

Mess in a Dress

Dear Dress,

I’m so happy to hear it, and we’re very touched you thought to tell us 18 weeks later!

Enjoy your Sylveon, chocolate, and flowers, and make sure he appreciates the work you put into that visual novel.

We look forward to hearing about the jewelry-smithing updates.

Love,

The Crone